The final and possibly most important gift we can give a pet is that of a dignified end. Sadly, pets live much shorter lives than humans, so even if your dog or cat has enjoyed a long, healthy and happy life it will only be a small portion of your life and you may have to face the difficult decision of having them put to sleep.
How do I know when it is time to say goodbye?
There are some things you can do to help establish if it is time to take the painful decision to say goodbye. The first step would be to assess your pet’s quality of life. It might help you to make a list of things that contribute to your pet’s happiness and grade these according to how able your pet is to still enjoy them.
Your list may include things like:
- Food
- Hydration
- Mobility
- Exercise
- Play
- Companionship
- Bodily function control
- Comfort (not in pain, thirsty, hungry, or listless)
One commonly accepted tool for both pet owners and veterinarians to use is Dr Alice Villalobos’ Quality of Life scale. Dr Villalobos is a veterinary oncologist (a cancer specialist for pets) who developed a quality of life programme for terminally ill pets. Her HHHHHMM scale is helpful to put some measurements against: Hurt; Hunger; Hydration; Hygiene; Happiness; Mobility; More good days than bad. You can read more on the HHHHHMM scale and download a copy at… Measuring quality of life – Compassion Understood.
Talk to your vet about treatment options that can help your pet live more comfortably but keep your focus on quality of life rather than only prolonging life. Your vet should also be able to support you in assessing your pet’s quality of life. Don’t feel awkward about discussing costs with your vet. While you have a responsibility to do what you can to ensure your pet has a good life, you should not deprive yourself or your family of financial stability.
Speak to your friends and family about making the decision as they too have been a part of your pet’s life and may be an unexpected source of support. Depending on their age, your children may appreciate being involved in the decision.
There are many resources available to guide you, such as;